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Individual Therapy
You feel lost, anxious, sad, overwhelmed and confused. You may not even know what you want to talk about. That’s O.K. The following are just some of the areas I can help you with and we can figure out together what you want to work on. Bring in your own goals or pick one or two below that resonate with you and let’s get going!
-Guidance for when you feel stuck and uncertain how to deal with a problem in a relationship
-Help to feel less drained and more supported in your relationships
-Learn how to set healthy boundaries
-Move from feeling perpetually lonely to feeling connected, loved and seen
-Help for you when your partner/spouse won’t come to therapy
-Break away from Co-dependency into Co-regulation
-Navigate the dating scene to find an emotionally healthy partner
-Heal from a breakup
-Identify and set boundaries against spiritual manipulation/abuse
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Couples/Marriage Therapy
You feel disconnected, alone, resentful and disillusioned. You may have noticed that it feels like you’re having the same fight over and over. Instead of feeling loving feelings, you feel perpetually angry or maybe even apathetic. Bottom line is: you feel alone in your relationship. Let me help guide the two of you back to feeling connected and loved: navigating life as a team.
-Deescalate from destructive arguments
-Help to listen better to your partner and also feel heard in return
-Discover how to change your communication style to become more effective
-Learn how to be vulnerable with your partner or spouse
-Identify negative communication patterns
-Learn how to support each other’s needs and desires
-Heal from wounds such as substance abuse, infidelity and other traumatic experiences
-Remove obstacles to phyiscal and emotional intimacy
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Family Therapy
Family means everything to you but maybe it feels like things are out of control and you don’t know how to fix it. The conflict might be with a son/daughter, sibling, parent or an extended family member. It can be scary and overwhelming to have hard conversations directly. I will help guide and support you and your loved ones through conversations to find healing and resolution.
-Support for having a hard conversation with a family member
-Improving the family’s connection
-Working through present and/or past conflict
-Increasing awareness of each family member’s communication styles
-Help to improve listening and communication skills
-Help to identify and meet each family member’s needs
-Boundary setting with adult children
-Parental support for when your child is struggling with mental health or making destructive choices
-Using the Enneagram to develop a greater awareness of the motivations and behavior of each member of your family
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Dating/Premarital Therapy
You feel hopeful, excited but not necessarily prepared for marriage. You want to start your marriage with a strong foundation and build healthy communication patterns. Or maybe you thought you found “the one” but are having doubts and need help to determine if you two should move forward. You might be painfully single and frustrated with finding “the one” because you keep missing red flags and it feels like there are no good people left to date. Let’s work together to navigate your scenario and set you up for lifelong relationship success.
For engaged couples, I provide the Prepare/Enrich premarital assessment (if desired). We will structure your sessions based upon the themes that are most relevant to your relationship. For more information about Prepare/Enrich, please visit their website at: https://www.prepare-enrich.com/
-Develop healthy communication patterns
-Learn about you and your partner’s attachment styles
-Identify signs of a healthy vs. unhealthy relationship (yellow vs. red flags)
-Discern whether to commit verses to end a dating relationship
-Determine your negotiables/vs. non-negotiables for a current or future relationship
What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFCT) is the primary model of therapy that I use when working with clients. EFCT is not a toolbox of self help, pop psychology or tiktok advice and tips such as “go on a weekly date night”, “use I messages,” or “repeat back exactly what your partner says.” These tips tend to be similar to over the counter remedies, helpful but short lived. EFCT is comparable to surgery that will get to the heart of the problem, resulting in long lasting change.
Developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, EFCT is a highly researched and evidenced based method of couples’ therapy that assesses the patterns of communicating that get in the way of you and your partner understanding each other and responding to each other’s needs. You may have noticed repeating some of the same fights or patterns in your relationship. An EFCT therapist will help you and your partner identify what happens to create these destructive patterns aka “the cycle” and learn how to stop them. You will each start to recognize that the negative relationship cycle is the enemy, not you or your partner. This will help you and your partner to deescalate the conflict you have repeatedly experienced.
When the cycle is no longer taking over your communication, an EFCT therapist will then do a deeper dive to help you and your partner understand what each person is actually feeling and thinking, unearth triggering beliefs about yourself and/or your partner, and view and experience each other through a new perspective. You will then learn to ask for your core emotional needs and learn to respond differently to your partner’s needs. Through the process, you will learn to move towards a safe and secure attachment with each other that will help you deal with whatever areas of challenge you may encounter for the rest of your lives. For further information about the EFCT model, please visit the ICEEFT website: https://iceeft.com/what-is-eft-public/
You can also take a look at this brief video to get a better idea about the EFCT focus in relationship therapy.